Working Full-Time While Caring for an Elderly Parent
6:30am — check on Mum by phone before work. 8:45am — call the pharmacy about her prescription. 12pm — ring the home care provider during your lunch break. 3pm — leave a meeting early for her GP appointment. 7pm — cook her dinner after cooking yours. 10pm — worry about tomorrow. Repeat.
2.65 million Australians are informal carers. One in three working carers has reduced their hours or left their job entirely. The economic cost is $4.9 billion in lost productivity. But quitting isn't the only option — and for most people, it shouldn't be the first.
Australians are informal carers
working carers reduce hours or quit
annual cost in lost productivity
paid carer’s leave per year (NES)
The Daily Juggle: What It Actually Looks Like
Working carers don't have a “second job” — they have a second job that follows no schedule, has no boundaries, and fires you emotionally before you even start your real workday.
Morning (Before Work)
- • Phone call to check they're awake and okay
- • Medication reminder or confirmation
- • Arranging home care worker for the day
- • Mental inventory: do they have food? Is their appointment today?
During Work Hours
- • Calls from the pharmacy, GP, home care provider
- • Emergency calls from parent (“I can't find my glasses”)
- • Researching services, filing Centrelink forms
- • Guilt about being distracted at work
After Work
- • Visit to check on them, prepare meals
- • Household tasks they can no longer do
- • Grocery shopping, prescription pickup
- • Trying to maintain your own household
Night
- • Worrying about whether they're safe overnight
- • Phone calls if they're confused or anxious
- • No time for your partner, children, or yourself
- • Insomnia, anxiety, exhaustion
Your Workplace Rights Under the Fair Work Act
Many Australian carers don't realise they have legal rights that protect them. The Fair Work Act 2009 and the National Employment Standards (NES) provide specific protections for working carers.
| Right | Entitlement | Who Qualifies | How to Access |
|---|---|---|---|
| Carer’s Leave (Paid) | 10 days/year (from personal/carer’s leave) | Full-time and part-time employees | Notify employer, provide evidence if requested |
| Carer’s Leave (Unpaid) | 2 days per occasion | All employees (including casual) | Notify employer as soon as practicable |
| Compassionate Leave | 2 days paid per occasion | Full-time and part-time employees | When a family member has a life-threatening condition |
| Flexible Work Arrangements | Right to REQUEST changes | Employees with 12+ months service who are carers | Written request; employer can only refuse on reasonable business grounds |
| Protection from Discrimination | Cannot be fired for carer responsibilities | All employees | Fair Work Commission complaint if discriminated against |
The flexible work right is underused. Since 2023, employers can only refuse a request for flexible work arrangements on “reasonable business grounds” — and must discuss alternatives. Many carers don't ask because they assume the answer is no. The law is on your side.
How to Talk to Your Employer
The conversation feels uncomfortable, but most employers respond well when approached professionally. Here's a framework.
Frame it as productivity, not sympathy
“I’d like to discuss adjustments that will help me maintain my performance while managing a family situation.” This positions you as proactive, not vulnerable.
Be specific about what you need
Don’t say “I need flexibility.” Say “I’d like to start at 8:30 instead of 8:00 on Tuesdays and Thursdays so I can arrange morning care.” Specific requests are easier to approve.
Offer solutions, not just problems
“I’ll make up the time by working through lunch” or “I can do admin tasks from home on Fridays.” Showing you’ve thought about the business impact builds trust.
Know your rights but lead with collaboration
You have a legal right to request flexible arrangements, but starting with “The Fair Work Act says...” is adversarial. Save the legal framework for if collaboration fails.
Put it in writing
After the conversation, email a summary of what was agreed. This protects both parties and prevents misunderstandings.
Services That Fill the Work-Hours Gap
The core problem: you can't be in two places at once. These services provide coverage during your working hours.
| Service | What It Does | Covers | Funding |
|---|---|---|---|
| CHSP Home Support | Cleaning, meals, personal care | Weekday daytime | Government-subsidised |
| Home Care Package | Coordinated care plan | Daily (up to 24/7 at Level 4) | Government-subsidised |
| Daily Wellness Calls | Phone check-in, safety confirmation | Morning or afternoon | From $4.33/month (Kindly Call) |
| Day Centre / Social Group | Supervision, social interaction, meals | Weekday daytime (9am–3pm typical) | Government-subsidised (CHSP) |
| In-Home Respite | A carer sits with your parent | Flexible hours | Carer Gateway (up to $3,750/yr) |
| Meal Delivery | Hot meals delivered to door | Lunch daily | $10–$15/meal (some subsidised) |
| Personal Alarm | Emergency button worn as pendant | 24/7 | $30–$60/month |
The minimum viable setup for a working carer: Daily wellness call (morning) + personal alarm (24/7) + CHSP home support (weekly cleaning + meals). This covers safety, nutrition, and emergencies for under $100/month out of pocket.
Financial Support for Working Carers
| Payment | Amount (2026) | Income Test | Can You Work? |
|---|---|---|---|
| Carer Allowance | $153/fortnight | NOT income-tested | Yes — unlimited work hours |
| Carer Supplement | $600/year (lump sum) | Must receive Carer Allowance | Yes |
| Carer Payment | $1,116.30/fortnight (single) | Income and assets tested | Limited to 25 hrs/week |
| Carer Adjustment Payment | Lump sum (up to $10,000) | For sudden-onset disability/condition | Yes |
Most working carers miss the Carer Allowance. It's NOT income-tested, so you can earn any amount and still receive $153/fortnight ($3,978/year). You qualify if you provide daily care and attention in your parent's home. Apply through Centrelink — it's backdated to your application date.
Burnout Warning Signs for Working Carers
Working carers are at extreme risk of burnout because they have no downtime. Work stress flows into caregiving stress flows into family stress flows back into work stress.
At Work
- • Can't concentrate — reading the same email three times
- • Leaving early or arriving late more often
- • Avoiding tasks that require sustained focus
- • Snapping at colleagues
- • Dreading going to work (when you used to enjoy it)
- • Using sick days for caregiving tasks
At Home
- • Resentment towards your parent (“why can't they just...”)
- • Guilt about the resentment
- • No social life — haven't seen friends in months
- • Relationship strain with partner or children
- • Neglecting your own health (skipping GP, dentist)
- • Using alcohol or food to cope
If you recognise three or more signs: Contact Carer Gateway on 1800 422 737 for free counselling (up to 6 sessions) and emergency respite. Also check if your employer offers an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) — most medium-large employers do, and it's confidential.
Your Emergency Backup Plan
Every working carer needs a plan for the day they get a call at 10am saying “your mother has fallen.” Scrambling in a crisis wastes hours you don't have.
Designate a backup person
A sibling, neighbour, or trusted friend who can reach your parent within 30 minutes. Share house keys, alarm codes, and medication lists with them.
Know your parent’s GP and pharmacy
Save numbers in your phone. Know their Medicare number and any chronic disease management plans.
Pre-authorise emergency respite
Call Carer Gateway and set up an emergency respite plan BEFORE you need it. When the crisis hits, one phone call activates the plan.
Brief your manager in advance
“I may occasionally need to leave urgently for a family emergency. Here’s how I’ll hand over my tasks.” Advance notice prevents awkward explanations in the moment.
Hospital bag ready
Keep a bag at your parent’s home with medications, Medicare card, health summary, advance care directive, and comfortable clothes. Saves 30 minutes of panicked searching.
When to Reduce Hours vs Delegate Care
Consider Reducing Hours When
- • Your parent has dementia and needs daily in-person supervision
- • No services are available in their area (very remote)
- • Your parent refuses all outside help
- • Your health is deteriorating and you need to slow down
- • You can financially absorb the income reduction
Delegate Care Instead When
- • Services exist but haven't been set up yet (CHSP, HCP)
- • Your parent will accept help from professionals
- • Your career provides financial security for the whole family
- • Technology can monitor daily safety (calls, alarms)
- • Reducing hours would create financial stress
The critical insight: Most working carers try to do everything themselves before exploring services. Flip the order. Set up every available service FIRST, then assess whether your hours need to change. You may find that a well-supported parent needs far less of your direct time.
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